So…a female friend and I were emailing back and forth today — Happy New Year, how’s tricks, this and that. She asked me how my dating life was going and then said that she envied me a bit. See, she’s married, been married for….two and half years maybe. And already she is saying that as much as she loves her husband, if things happened to fall apart, she would probably never get married again. She would date, hang out, but that would probably be it. Hmm.

Now, I know this couple. I’ve known her forever and knew him pretty much since they met. I like them both…a lot. And I think they work well together. So, when I hear that after two years she is already feeling like she’s been rolled hard and put away wet, well…that doesn’t do much for my optimism when it comes to tying the knot.

After I told her that she was scaring me, she backtracked a little and told me not to fear. She said she was sure I would find someone wonderful and assured me that this person would have to pass her rigid evaluation, but after that, I would probably have a eternal wedded bliss. I’m not buying it. I often wonder what makes people so sure that they have done the right thing. Relationships alone are hard enough. Marriage. I can only imagine what hell marriage would be if you married someone who turned out to be completely the wrong person. Maybe they are right in the beginning, but five, ten years down the line something changes and all of a sudden you realize that your spouse is an albatross.

Remember that Russian billionaire Roman Abramoviche who gave his wife $2.5 billion dollars just so he could get out of the marriage. I mean, yeah, he was worth almost $30 billion, but still…imagine how unhappy you have to be to give up that much coin just so you can be free again. Has anyone ever paid that much money to get married? I’m thinking no. I imagine that noose must feel pretty tight to want to give up so much of your wealth to cut yourself loose. Wow.

I’m trying not to be skeptical. I figure that one day someone in my life is going to knock me on my ass and I will be so in love and so sure that she is the one, I will take the leap.

Yeah, right.